When I start to get upset & wonder about him, I just remember he’s only good looking because of his beard. Without the facial disguise, he doesn’t do it for me, physically.
Yes. Superficial, but it helps me through the emotions.
April 2020 Update: still looks like this superficial strategy works. As I currently move through a breakup, I think of all the things I liked about him and what he brought to the relationship, and then I flip it, and think about all the things I didn’t like: bad posture, short, thin, bald, how he made me feel insecure, how he’d call other women hot, how he did not see my value and took me for granted.
And yes, I know, I’m angry at myself for allowing the bad treatment to continue, when I should have stood up for myself and walked out.
I lovingly let go, I am enough.