Let’s take a moment to talk about DATING STANDARDS
Sticking to my dating standards during the pandemic has been difficult, or rather, I’ve been lazy. Bypassing the tinder texting phase and almost instantly sharing my phone number, bypassing my social media non-share practices and sharing my online life with a stranger, bypassing the feel-the-vibe-out phone call before a meet and greet…and boy oh boy do I now see more than ever why I have these measures in place. They truly help weed out people you don’t vibe with.
I fully understand why my dating practices during pandemic haven’t been inline with the type of relationship I want to cultivate, and even the type of I high-value person I strive to show up as. All this curtailing of my standards was in an effort to find connection in a time where being social with the outside world had become pretty obsolete.
…and you know what they say, awareness is key.
So after a short Covid fling, I took some time to re-evaluate my standards, and here are some edits to my long list of what I’m looking for:
- someone who opens doors for me
- calls me his gf
- has a clean living space
- texting back within reasonable time frame
- wants to see me, excited to see me
- makes me breakfast
- not into video games
I read a quote recently, “Don’t change your authenticity for someone else’s approval” and it rang like sirens through my head. You know this is happening when you start second guessing your moves, or editing your responses and over thinking your outfits. In these times, we need to take a step back, and maybe pray and ask for a little help.