Author Archives: Vanessa

cooking lessons and boys

 What sorts of lessons have you learned from the people you’ve dated? I started thinking about it today, and along with some life lessons, it seems I’ve also gathered a few cooking tips and tricks along the way. I notice these revelations in real-time. For example, the thought “pierce the sausage or it might explode”Continue reading “cooking lessons and boys”

dating around

How do you handle the dating world? At this age, aren’t we all just looking for someone to balance us out and build a partnership with? The thought of being single at 40 terrifies me, but this may be my reality. Back in the day, young adults would date one person (probably a neighbour orContinue reading “dating around”

all in the name of “love”

Ignoring the red flags, we all do it, we hope for better, we see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear. You know what was a red flag? The fact he didn’t appreciate Joni Mitchell. She’s a beautiful poet. #byeboybye. but on a more serious note: Huge red flag for myselfContinue reading “all in the name of “love””

Celebrating Winter Solstice

December 21, 2014 was the first time I celebrated Winter Solstice. It’s a time to reflect on the past year, discard things that no longer serve a purpose and make intentions for the coming year. This is a time we metaphorically plant our seeds. This year it falls on Monday, December 21, 2020. And so,Continue reading “Celebrating Winter Solstice”

Don’t take dating advice from your married friends

“Stick with me and I’ll make him yours in 30 days,” words from my married friend after I told her about the latest guy I’ve been dating. I wasn’t sure how to absorb this. Is she looking out for me? Why does she want to have this type of control over my love life? DoesContinue reading “Don’t take dating advice from your married friends”

he’s just not that into if…

He chooses sleeping in over seeing you He doesn’t respond to your texts within a reasonable amount of time He doesn’t lock-in plans to see you What are some others? Help me fill in the blanks. I write this because I often struggle with knowing my worth and setting boundaries, letting people take advantage ofContinue reading “he’s just not that into if…”

covid winter dating = wear your thermals

As I prepare for a first date, I have no idea how to dress. It’s cold outside, and since indoor dining is not allowed, I know I have to dress warmly. Is it possible to look cute while all bundled up? Things I pondered while putting on a thermal layered shirt, different style toques andContinue reading “covid winter dating = wear your thermals”