relationship goals

It’s easy to say that our relationship goals are based on pop culture and society. We are bound to how society dictates the way life should be. We are mezmorized and influenced by the things we see in movies and hear in love songs thinking what we see and hear are how relationships should look.Continue reading “relationship goals”

universal tests

To prove you are in alignment with your intentions is determined by if we pass or fail a series of universal tests laid out in front of us. This is how it works: The magic of the cosmos will present us with a circumstance in order to gauge how intent we are on our intentions. IContinue reading “universal tests”

embrace your pain

The world is on pause, yet life doesn’t feel much different. the same loneliness rattles in my head, the same daydreams circle about, the same suffering occurs. Eckhart Tolle says to not resist your pain, to surrender to the grief, despair, fear etc., He says to witness it without labelling it mentally and just allowContinue reading “embrace your pain”

on the importance of being imperfect.

If we’re too preoccupied about appearing perfect we are going to start living inauthentically. We will be in our heads; we will examine and second guess every move we make and every word we say. Enough to make anyone go crazy, am I right? It’s okay to make mistakes – mistakes are what make usContinue reading “on the importance of being imperfect.”

shape shifting into higher vibes

I’m not sure about you, but I can be a cranky mother fucker often times a week. And when in the low vibration funk, I can be irritable, unmotivated, and depressed. When we aren’t feeling right we won’t be able to help ourselves, help others and perform at our best. However, there are things we canContinue reading “shape shifting into higher vibes”

love from the inside out

Self-love comes from the inside out. How do I know this? I lost 80 lbs and in many respects, I still feel like the 255 lbs girl I’ve been for the majority of my life. I’m sensitive to how others perceive me, sensitive to words, quick to be on the defensive, As my waistline slowlyContinue reading “love from the inside out”

when you’re stuck

The hardest part of change is not making the same choices you did the day before. It’s going to feel uncomfortable, and unfamiliar. There will be uncertainty and unpredictability. And in that moment, the game is ON. The body and mind would rather live in fear than trust in the unknown. When we feel thatContinue reading “when you’re stuck”

diff dick, same problem

With the resurgence of this blog, i am re-reading my posts from years’ past. And just wow! I am going through the same problems in my love relationships that I had 5 years ago. Neediness, not knowing my worth and being comfortable with rejection are common themes. Don’t get it twisted tho, my money towardContinue reading “diff dick, same problem”

The year is 2020…

The year is 2020, and it might as well be the year 2000. Sure I’ve grown mentally, spiritually, physically and so on over the last 20 years, but the root problem still remains. Hi, my name is Vanessa and I suffer from low self-esteem. The same struggle I’ve had all my life and maybe notContinue reading “The year is 2020…”