A brief follow-up: It’s like looking in a mirror

On second thought, we shouldn’t put our expectations onto other people. For one, I’m a firm believer in expectations leading to let down, and two, we have to allow people to just be who they are. When we put expectations onto others we are kind of trying to control the situation. Rather, let us allowContinue reading “A brief follow-up: It’s like looking in a mirror”

It’s like looking in a mirror

Anytime I find myself in the bathroom of a new beau, I give myself a second look in the mirror. It’s that “here we go again” kinda look. And in each bathroom mirror I think “maybe this is the one? maybe this is the last time I’ll catch myself in the mirror of a newContinue reading “It’s like looking in a mirror”

Covid & the changing dating landscape

Well, I’m glad to say I kept some of my fat clothes. There’s a definite expansion in my waist these days, and it might be from stress eating! Right now, it’s all about being comfortable, and with the world turned upside down, it’s easy to get swept away in news-fear and anxiety. We are turningContinue reading “Covid & the changing dating landscape”

isolation boredom + dating momentum

There’s something to be said about maintaining the momentum when online dating, especially now during COVID. We are faced with many matches and an urge to make a connection with someone and perhaps even sustain said connection all while we’re stuck at home. If the connection wheel is a spinning and you let it slowContinue reading “isolation boredom + dating momentum”

emotional pain > physical pain

I think some people don’t understand just how painful a breakup can be. Often times, friends and family of the afflicted will provide advice like: “you can do better”, “your ex ain’t shit”, “there are plenty of fish in the sea” and a slew of other things meant to help you out. Don’t get meContinue reading “emotional pain > physical pain”

when it doesn’t go as planned

Sometimes it can feel like we have to start all over again. When you’re so sure about something and then it doesn’t turn out how you planned, well yeah, this can be a huge bummer. It’s a time when maybe we have to admit we were wrong. This can bring on guilt, anger and uncertainty.Continue reading “when it doesn’t go as planned”

the recovery process

With exercise, as with in life, it’s necessary to take time-outs to recover. When you’re benching 75 lbs, for example, you must take a rest after 8-12 reps, for at least 30-90 seconds, maybe longer depending on your body. We do this so during the next set, we can come at it from a preparedContinue reading “the recovery process”

Dating during COVID-19

Dating is a way we audition each other for parts. Upon meeting, we sit across from each other and verbalize our wants and needs to see if the other person can and wants to deliver these things to us. Vice versa. We wonder what role this potential new person is going to play in ourContinue reading “Dating during COVID-19”

the initial spark.

The following is a journal entry written on June 9, 2019: “So i met this guy, he’s super interesting, into the moon and stuff and the way the universe works. He taught me about energy and that our energy transfers from one thing to another and never goes away. He’s interesting, smart, cute. Kisses good.Continue reading “the initial spark.”