embrace your pain

The world is on pause, yet life doesn’t feel much different. the same loneliness rattles in my head, the same daydreams circle about, the same suffering occurs. Eckhart Tolle says to not resist your pain, to surrender to the grief, despair, fear etc., He says to witness it without labelling it mentally and just allowContinue reading “embrace your pain”

the fast and the furious – Covid dating update

“Dating” during Covid is like the fast and the furious. So many connections, so many future plans for dates but you know talk is cheap. Am I just being cynical? If not, then I’ve agreed to a number of dates, but it’s easy to commit when you know no real commitment actually exists. The lengthContinue reading “the fast and the furious – Covid dating update”

emotional pain > physical pain

I think some people don’t understand just how painful a breakup can be. Often times, friends and family of the afflicted will provide advice like: “you can do better”, “your ex ain’t shit”, “there are plenty of fish in the sea” and a slew of other things meant to help you out. Don’t get meContinue reading “emotional pain > physical pain”

when it doesn’t go as planned

Sometimes it can feel like we have to start all over again. When you’re so sure about something and then it doesn’t turn out how you planned, well yeah, this can be a huge bummer. It’s a time when maybe we have to admit we were wrong. This can bring on guilt, anger and uncertainty.Continue reading “when it doesn’t go as planned”

wash yo face.

Just read a few articles on stress and ageing. Turns out, when we’re stressed, our cells start to regenerate slower, causing us to lose collagen and elastin resulting in more fine lines and darker circles… and it gets worse, these effects could last FOR-EV-ER! (Read article at your own peril.) I’ve talked to a lotContinue reading “wash yo face.”

the recovery process

With exercise, as with in life, it’s necessary to take time-outs to recover. When you’re benching 75 lbs, for example, you must take a rest after 8-12 reps, for at least 30-90 seconds, maybe longer depending on your body. We do this so during the next set, we can come at it from a preparedContinue reading “the recovery process”

Dating during COVID-19

Dating is a way we audition each other for parts. Upon meeting, we sit across from each other and verbalize our wants and needs to see if the other person can and wants to deliver these things to us. Vice versa. We wonder what role this potential new person is going to play in ourContinue reading “Dating during COVID-19”

diff dick, same problem

With the resurgence of this blog, i am re-reading my posts from years’ past. And just wow! I am going through the same problems in my love relationships that I had 5 years ago. Neediness, not knowing my worth and being comfortable with rejection are common themes. Don’t get it twisted tho, my money towardContinue reading “diff dick, same problem”

breakups and pandemics.

In this world with so much going on we forget to reflect and see why things are happening the way they are happening. My psychotherapist urges, “it’s not what’s happening TO you, it’s what’s happening for you.” This is the reason why things unravelled in my last relationship. I lost a grip of myself, whoContinue reading “breakups and pandemics.”