Just read a few articles on stress and ageing. Turns out, when we’re stressed, our cells start to regenerate slower, causing us to lose collagen and elastin resulting in more fine lines and darker circles… and it gets worse, these effects could last FOR-EV-ER! (Read article at your own peril.) I’ve talked to a lotContinue reading “wash yo face.”
With exercise, as with in life, it’s necessary to take time-outs to recover. When you’re benching 75 lbs, for example, you must take a rest after 8-12 reps, for at least 30-90 seconds, maybe longer depending on your body. We do this so during the next set, we can come at it from a preparedContinue reading “the recovery process”
Dating is a way we audition each other for parts. Upon meeting, we sit across from each other and verbalize our wants and needs to see if the other person can and wants to deliver these things to us. Vice versa. We wonder what role this potential new person is going to play in ourContinue reading “Dating during COVID-19”
With the resurgence of this blog, i am re-reading my posts from years’ past. And just wow! I am going through the same problems in my love relationships that I had 5 years ago. Neediness, not knowing my worth and being comfortable with rejection are common themes. Don’t get it twisted tho, my money towardContinue reading “diff dick, same problem”
In this world with so much going on we forget to reflect and see why things are happening the way they are happening. My psychotherapist urges, “it’s not what’s happening TO you, it’s what’s happening for you.” This is the reason why things unravelled in my last relationship. I lost a grip of myself, whoContinue reading “breakups and pandemics.”
The year is 2020, and it might as well be the year 2000. Sure I’ve grown mentally, spiritually, physically and so on over the last 20 years, but the root problem still remains. Hi, my name is Vanessa and I suffer from low self-esteem. The same struggle I’ve had all my life and maybe notContinue reading “The year is 2020…”
Playing big scares the shit out of me. Fear of making mistakes and fucking up, worrying what people think. But it’s only when I put myself out there that things can change and I can grow. It’s scary, but it’s necessary. Maybe it won’t always feel this scary?
…like where is my next hit! Who is the next person that will give me the attention I need and crave? Who will provide me with that fast love? Who will give me that attraction high for the next few weeks? I need my hit!
So get this. Arrived in NY and he isn’t even here to greet me at the hotel. He went shopping instead and now I’m waiting in the lounge area for him, like a bafoon! Not only that but he didn’t even text or call me before my flight. Okay I gotta turn my mood around.Continue reading “Nyc. “
See. I’m a reformed easy girl. And I know not how to separate my urges from my standards. And I guess that makes me easy. We hang out, we found each other attractive and we went at it, and because I didn’t make him wait to have a taste, and because he didn’t have to wineContinue reading “Fight song “