when you’re stuck

The hardest part of change is not making the same choices you did the day before. It’s going to feel uncomfortable, and unfamiliar. There will be uncertainty and unpredictability. And in that moment, the game is ON. The body and mind would rather live in fear than trust in the unknown. When we feel thatContinue reading “when you’re stuck”

diff dick, same problem

With the resurgence of this blog, i am re-reading my posts from years’ past. And just wow! I am going through the same problems in my love relationships that I had 5 years ago. Neediness, not knowing my worth and being comfortable with rejection are common themes. Don’t get it twisted tho, my money towardContinue reading “diff dick, same problem”

breakups and pandemics.

In this world with so much going on we forget to reflect and see why things are happening the way they are happening. My psychotherapist urges, “it’s not what’s happening TO you, it’s what’s happening for you.” This is the reason why things unravelled in my last relationship. I lost a grip of myself, whoContinue reading “breakups and pandemics.”

The year is 2020…

The year is 2020, and it might as well be the year 2000. Sure I’ve grown mentally, spiritually, physically and so on over the last 20 years, but the root problem still remains. Hi, my name is Vanessa and I suffer from low self-esteem. The same struggle I’ve had all my life and maybe notContinue reading “The year is 2020…”